14 years ago I could play WoW for 10 hours straight a day from Vanilla up to Mists of Pandaria and thats where I started playing less and at BFA i quit. Now I have a wife, an 3 year old and i got really excited during this global stress test.

I'm not sure I really want to start playing WoW Classic, because i'm afraid that i will play for hours and can't control myself at when to stop and when to spend time with my family.

I think its most likely possible that my job and my family will suffer from me playing too much wow and not spending the time with my family and will end up screwing up my real life and relationships.

I have encountered during this global stress test that I have been playing for 2-4 hour sessions and I had to leave my family waiting for dinner etc because i just wanted to get my quest done or my level.

Maybe I should look for other good games like battlefield of call of duty or so and respect that i have grown older and have a family now and leave all of the hype for WoW classic :(

If WOW brings out the worst in you, don’t play WoW.

Simple, get your shit done IRL first.

If the kid or the wife needs help, simply get up and do it.

WoW is a video game, and it will ALWAYS be here for you to sit down and sign back on. Your family however, may not be around forever, especially if you neglect them for a video game.

Stfuppercut wrote: ↑

5 years ago

If WOW brings out the worst in you, don’t play WoW.

This.

Sounds like you got some good things going on in the real world, don't fuck that up for some old game.

Not really sure what you’re expecting from us - just to get it off your chest - or seeking advice?

If it’s the former then I’m sure that many here can sympathise with you.

If it’s the latter my friend you need to man up and put your family first. Tell your wife about it openly and ask her to help you keep it under control if you can’t do that yourself.

I've been telling them since the announcement how big this is for me and I think they understand that I'll be around less at least for the first month, but they are always welcome to visit me on my computer.

Self discipline.
1 hour each day can be Vinsjuhnl time, a few more hours on the weekends.
You can still play the game but family is more important. You should talk to your wife about how the game makes you feel and ask her opinion about it .

In my opinion if you during the stress test already had them waiting on you like that, I wouldn't play.

Cut it out of your life

Never take a game over IRL stuff, especially if you have a kid.

Vinsjuhnl wrote: ↑

5 years ago

I think its most likely possible that my job and my family will suffer from me playing too much wow and not spending the time with my family and will end up screwing up my real life and relationships.

Then don't.

/thread

Vinsjuhnl wrote: ↑

5 years ago

I have encountered during this global stress test that I have been playing for 2-4 hour sessions and I had to leave my family waiting for dinner etc because i just wanted to get my quest done or my level.

There are at least 2 choices:

• Do not start to play, problem solved.
• Do play, but change your approach - go from goal-oriented(finish quest/zone/level - easy to be greedy and change the goals mid-session) to play in pre-allocated time slots. You and everyone else now the schedule and know what to expect.

My approach is to take two weeks paid vacation to no-life at release and get one 5-man team to 60(hopefully with full pre-bis for 2-3 of them), and 5 chars to 35 for transmute cooldowns. After that I will have very little time to play, but might be able to raid on one of them and support with some gold/items from other characters. If raiding isn't possible I can at least farm/pvp a little here and there.

Just give yourself a time slot when your family won't be neglected and stick to it. Forget the long hours of instances and stick to solo questing so you can get up and quit at a moments notice. At least you'll get to play. I am getting up three hours earlier than the wife and hitting the world for just a few hours a day. Not tying myself into instances or raiding but I'll still have a blast back in the world a little at a time.

OP, you need to change your approach to gaming in general now that you have a child that not only needs food and water but meaningful human interaction.

How about you treat wow as a hobby to do in your spare time? Maybe try the social/community aspect this time around instead of going for a hardcore pvp/pve approach.

Vanilla will ALWAYS be around. Your child will never be 3 again.

It sounds like you have an addiction problem and you're seeking validation from strangers on the Internet to engage with the problem again. Long story short, probably don't play WoW Classic if you have concerns like this.

5bx wrote: ↑

5 years ago

Vinsjuhnl wrote: ↑

5 years ago

I have encountered during this global stress test that I have been playing for 2-4 hour sessions and I had to leave my family waiting for dinner etc because i just wanted to get my quest done or my level.

There are at least 2 choices:

• Do not start to play, problem solved.
• Do play, but change your approach - go from goal-oriented(finish quest/zone/level - easy to be greedy and change the goals mid-session) to play in pre-allocated time slots. You and everyone else now the schedule and know what to expect.

This is a very great way to look at it.
Change the way you play because if both your family and the game bring you happiness then work on a balance between them instead of dropping all the weight on either side.

Be attentive and responsive to your S/O, I don’t mean, “I’ll be there in a minute/after this quest” I mean get out of your chair and do it as if the game was never even and obstacle. If you start making anyone think that your choosing a game over them then their personal view of how you feel about them might change.

Hope you find peace and balance between what makes you happy brotha, I really do!

Vinsjuhnl wrote: ↑

5 years ago

Maybe I should look for other good games like battlefield of call of duty or so and respect that i have grown older and have a family now and leave all of the hype for WoW classic :(

Huh interesting.... I'd argue WoW Vanilla requires less time than ever to progress/experience the game. Everything is laid out in guides, all you need to do is follow them and you'll blaze through it. MAYBE leveling is different since you can get max level on retail but cant in Classic?

My casual-est of friend's only needs to raid log twice a week for 2-3hours to keep up with boss/progression. And with Classic being MUCH easier I'd expect he only needs to log on for 2hours max.

I have had a few problems juggling family life and gaming so far.. But most are overcome easily when you take WoW in moderation and realize that family is far more important.

I also have a wife and my son is 14 months old now. I took the first week of launch of work expecting to be lv40+ there, but it turned out my son got sick on the last days and the wife and I during the last weekend.. So I made it to lv30 or so after 1 week, a lot lower than expected. As of right now I am ½ a level from 40, only playing a bit on the weekends and on the evenings when my son is asleep. My wife is understanding that I am pushing to 60, so after that I will be spending more evenings with her and leaving me with 3 - 4 evenings worth of gaming only which should be more than enough to both sustain a main and dabble into leveling an alt.

I am more than happy to keep my gaming to a minimum once I have a main, but I am pushing it a bit extra the first month or so here so that I dont miss out playing with guild and friends.